Regret? We Don’t Know Her!

Sis, let’s talk about regret—that sneaky feeling that shows up whenever we think we messed up. Life can be tough on any day, but for Black women, regret might feel even heavier. We have big dreams, busy lives, and people who count on us. It can feel massive when we realize something didn’t go our way. Still, here’s the good news: your story is special, and so is your comeback.

Start by focusing on what’s going right. Even on days when it feels like the whole world is off-track, look for the small wins—a good laugh with a friend, a yummy meal, or that moment when your hair does exactly what you want. These little moments matter because they remind you that life isn’t just about mistakes; it’s also about all the things you do well.

Community is key, too. Spend time with people who see your worth. When you share your worries or regrets with a trusted friend or mentor, you often find you’re not as alone as you thought. Listening to supportive voices can help you feel brave again, even when doubt tries to creep in.

Living in the present helps you avoid staying stuck in the past. If you focus on what’s happening right now, you give yourself the power to decide what’s next. Regret might tap on your shoulder, but it doesn’t get to run the show if you keep your mind on today’s goals and challenges.

Sometimes, admitting you made a mistake is tough, especially when everyone around you thinks you’re strong all the time. But saying, “I messed up. Let’s fix it,” shows true strength. Being honest with yourself opens the door for healing and trust—both with others and within your own heart.

If there’s something you’ve been putting off—like going back to school, trying a new hobby, or speaking up for yourself—take one small step today. Each tiny move brings you closer to a future with fewer “I wish I had.” And if you’re scared, remember what Dr. Psych RN likes to say: “We can’t let regrets hang around like uninvited guests at the cookout. Show them the door, honey, and keep it moving!”

Speaking up isn’t always easy, but your voice matters. Sharing your truth can inspire others and remind you of your own power. Even if you feel nervous at first, you might be surprised by how strong you become once you decide to stand up for what you believe in.

Building a vision for your future also helps keep regrets from controlling you. Picture where you want to be, what you want to do, and the kind of person you want to become. That picture keeps you focused on new possibilities instead of old mistakes.

Don’t forget to show yourself some love right where you are. Accepting who you are—flaws and all—doesn’t mean you stop growing. It means you respect your journey and understand that every choice brought you here, ready for the next step.

Finally, own your choices. You get to shape your life, and that’s a powerful thing. Regret might still pop up, but it won’t own you if you remember you’re in charge. And hey, I’d love to hear how you’re kicking regret to the curb. Share your stories or tag a friend who could use a little confidence boost. When one of us moves forward, we all do. Keep shining, sis—you’ve got everything you need to write your own bold, beautiful story.

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